Change is the only constant of life. While some changes are positive and fill us with happiness, there are some that we dread. Some of these changes are predictable, such as children leaving home or marriage, while many others are unpredictable. Changes brought on by events that we have no control over, such as accidents, illness or loss of loved ones can be scary and life-changing.
Life transitions are events that can be overwhelming, particularly for those resistant to change. Many people subconsciously or consciously resist change, and many prefer and thrive on some amount of predictability in their day to day lives. The unknown and sudden changes brought on by marriage, divorce or child birth can be stressful even when it is a predictable event. For instance, although marriage is a planned event, the transition towards the partnership, compromise, and shared decision making can be challenging for many.
Graduating from college is another example of a difficult life transition that brings on the added pressure of finding a job, setting up home, paying bills and achieving work-life balance. Death or illnesses of loved ones or self are extremely difficult to cope with.
Here are some of the common life changes:
- Pregnancy and child birth
- Becoming a parent
- Empty Nest Syndrome
- Leaving home
- Loss of job or change in career
- Health changes
- Loss of a loved one
- Financial losses
- Traumatic events such as accidents, terror attacks, sexual assault, violence
How life transition counseling helps
Life transition counseling will equip you with tools and techniques to cope with both desirable and undesirable changes and realize the inevitability of some of these changes. Through guided sessions, you can develop new perspectives to any situation in life which in turn help you accept both positive and negative changes.
Life transition counseling empowers you with new skills to cope with all of these stages that are common while experiencing life transition:
- Experiencing an array of negative feelings including anxiety, stress, anger, guilt, numbness, shock, confusion and self-doubt
- Low self-esteem and self-confidence
- Denial or resistance to change
- Unhealthy coping mechanisms such as addictive or self-destructive behaviors
With my tailored psychotherapy and counseling sessions, you or your loved ones who are going through difficult life changes can:
- Recognize the change
- Begin the process of acceptance of the transition
- Acknowledge the need for letting the past free
- Develop an optimistic attitude regarding the future
- Experience increase in confidence and self-esteem
- Develop healthy coping habits and behaviors
While all of these desirable changes may not happen all at once, with long term, sustained caring assistance, it is possible to regain hope for the future, while learning new skills to cope with new challenges. As with any other behavior change, life transitions also require sustained, incremental efforts.
Individualized psychotherapy sessions
As a Master’s level clinician with MSW from Columbia University School of Social Work, I have worked closely with multiple people in inpatient, outpatient behavioral health settings, Maternal High Risk and Newborn Intensive Care Units.
With extensive experience in treating a wide array of issues and concerns related to life transitions, depression, and women’s issues. Our approach is an effective combination of best practices in psychotherapy and a strong dose of empathy and care.
While we tailor my therapy to match your unique set of requirements, we seek to achieve the best possible outcomes through short and long term therapy sessions.
The goal of psychotherapy is to help you:
- Recognize that life transitions are inevitable and occupy a special place in life. Rather than resisting or living in denial because of the difficult nature of life transitions, you will recognize the importance of accepting, letting go and adapting to new circumstances.
- View stress as an opportunity and challenge and not as a threat. By understanding the many ways of coping with stressful life transitions, you can learn how to conquer negative transitions by rising above them.
- Appreciate the benefits that life transition can bring. Through tailored therapy, you can recognize that being stagnant and stuck in a rut can sometimes be harmful for cognitive growth. Changes in routine, thinking pattern, behaviors, and coping mechanisms can help stimulate your brain cells, keeping you active and mentally healthy.
- Remember the previous times you have conquered stressful situations. My long term therapy sessions are designed to recognize patterns of behavior and coping mechanisms over a period of time that can help you deal with ongoing or emerging changes.
- Understand how other people have navigated through stressful transitions. With real life examples of how other people dealt with changes can help inspire you to cope better with the transition. I have the right strategies to help you understand that through optimism and faith it is possible to cope with and adapt to the most stressful life events.
- Take good care of your mental, social and physical health. While transitions are challenging, they may be temporary in nature. It is important to take care of your overall health and well-being to make the most of what the future can bring.